Happy to have discovered your page, and loving your beautiful writing. I so relate to what you say about the heightened sensitivity around mid-life and perimenopause. I think midlife is often the time when all our unresolved issues come to the surface in order (hopefully) to be faced and healed. I have never liked the HSP label - I think this makes it seem like a fixed and immutable personality trait, whereas actually, from a somatic therapy perspective, it is a lot to do with nervous system regulation, which absolutely can change.
I hope you're right about the possibility of change - perimenopause really shook my nervous system and, though it's much better, I'm still not as solid as I used to be. The 'new normal.' Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
Yes, it has shaken my nervous system a lot too, but it also forced me to face and heal some things I had previously managed to gloss over quite effectively (or at least, it's a work in progress!)
I have dreamy eyes for custard. It's simply the best. And I also have a hesitancy about the naming of HSP - I feel we are all meant to be deeply sensory aware, emotionally fluent and psychically capable of FEELING the truth of a moment. As I get older, my sensitivities get more intense and now the grocery store feels like a mushroom trip that I would like to be over!
Love your writing. My mom used to call me spleeny...a New England colloquialism meaning sensitive to everything. I've only recently realized that maybe that's not such a bad thing. ☘️❤️
Whew, this resonated in a big way. Also, I’d heard of HSP but figured it was basically being an artist + introvert. But that list you linked SAW me, thanks!
“There’s a tough chick in me who wrestled the HSP to the ground, hog-tied her while the big life was built. The two-marriage, four-kid, big mortgage, big stress life.
At midlife, when things on the outside calmed down, the shell-shocked HSP in me stood up and said, “Excuse me, we need to talk.” And we’ve been talking ever since.”
Happy to have discovered your page, and loving your beautiful writing. I so relate to what you say about the heightened sensitivity around mid-life and perimenopause. I think midlife is often the time when all our unresolved issues come to the surface in order (hopefully) to be faced and healed. I have never liked the HSP label - I think this makes it seem like a fixed and immutable personality trait, whereas actually, from a somatic therapy perspective, it is a lot to do with nervous system regulation, which absolutely can change.
I hope you're right about the possibility of change - perimenopause really shook my nervous system and, though it's much better, I'm still not as solid as I used to be. The 'new normal.' Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
Yes, it has shaken my nervous system a lot too, but it also forced me to face and heal some things I had previously managed to gloss over quite effectively (or at least, it's a work in progress!)
How beautiful. I too am a tough chick discovering my vulnerable side in a mid-life separation. I get it. Lovely reading thanks for sharing 🙏
I have dreamy eyes for custard. It's simply the best. And I also have a hesitancy about the naming of HSP - I feel we are all meant to be deeply sensory aware, emotionally fluent and psychically capable of FEELING the truth of a moment. As I get older, my sensitivities get more intense and now the grocery store feels like a mushroom trip that I would like to be over!
Some of the best writing I've read in awhile.
Thanks so much, it means a lot to get this positive feedback ❤️
It’s always okay to feel. Even when it’s “too much.”
Beautifully human writing. Bravo.
Love your writing. My mom used to call me spleeny...a New England colloquialism meaning sensitive to everything. I've only recently realized that maybe that's not such a bad thing. ☘️❤️
I think I've decided it's a good thing. Thanks so much for reading and commenting! ❤️
I love this whole post. The quotes, the custard, the zest, the realness. Thank you!🙏
Thanks for reading! 😊
Whew, this resonated in a big way. Also, I’d heard of HSP but figured it was basically being an artist + introvert. But that list you linked SAW me, thanks!
“There’s a tough chick in me who wrestled the HSP to the ground, hog-tied her while the big life was built. The two-marriage, four-kid, big mortgage, big stress life.
At midlife, when things on the outside calmed down, the shell-shocked HSP in me stood up and said, “Excuse me, we need to talk.” And we’ve been talking ever since.”
So excited for Monsters too. And I love your writing so so much <3 hope you’re feeling better!
Thanks so much! ❤️❤️