Decades ago, when I was a twenty-something work-in-progress, I pinched a tiny, loose red thread from an ancient textile in a museum basement. Now, as a nearly sixty work-in-progress, I can’t find it.
I’ve lost the thread.
It was a delicate whisper and sat on the tip of my finger like a slip of blood. After bringing it home, it lived with shattered windshield glass in a tiny metal box that my first husband took from a dying man’s house. Then, it lived in a tiny stained glass box, along with the smallest seashells on earth. The boxes, and the thread, have moved with me many times, in trucks and cars, across state lines. Through marriage, divorce, and more marriage; through kids and chaos. That little ancient stolen thread — nested in tiny boxes, squirreled away in bigger boxes and bags, drawers and closets — stayed with me. It made me wonder about the hands (women’s hands, I’m sure) that wove it, dyed it, used it. Pre-Columbian, the museum tag said, but all that means is before Columbus the colonizer. Hundreds of years ago? Thousands? Central America? South America? Somewhere in an unfathomably vast land. Eons of time defined by a plundering man’s name.
Who touched the red thread?
I did. I held it tenderly, awestruck and reverent. It went first into my pocket and then into supposedly precious boxes only to turn up missing here in this house where it slept, unappreciated, for many years. It used to burn a little hole in my consciousness, a pinprick of light, and I would check on it, remember the scene of its taking, wonder at its provenance and my brief criminal career. But then life took over and got busy, too much to do, too many things. I forgot about the red thread and now it’s gone.
A practical explanation is that it — tiny wisp of a thing — fell unseen from its box in a move. From this box to that, from this drawer to that. Or perhaps I was visiting it and got distracted — old forgotten thing — and neglected to secure it, to properly protect it.
A possibly less practical explanation is that it simply disintegrated. Disappeared, the way we all will given time and conditions. I would expect to see dust in its hiding place, dust of a particular bloody hue, but it’s not there. There’s dust everywhere in this old house, but no special, ancient, pre-Columbian dust that I can find.
The least practical (and my favorite) explanation is magic. The thread was magicked away from me, by a spirit, a ghost, an unknown force that recognized a thing out of place. I have no right, really, to keep this bit of history imprisoned in a box in my house. I had no right to take it (though my tiny boxes seem no worse than the dark drawers of that basement museum department). I had no reason, just a Golem-ish fascination with a pretty thing in a weak moment. Perhaps I have offended the gods and goddesses, and it has been set right.
I’ve lost the thread but maybe the thread was found. I suppose it is still with me, in a way — I’m going on about it here.
I wrote a draft of this in a writing class and read it aloud in a timid and trembling way. (I infuriate myself.) At the end of class, the teacher stood up and, wide-eyed, plucked a red thread from her chair. (Clearly from her red sweater, but still — eyes were wide.) She gave it to me and it sits here on my desk. Where will it be when I’m an old woman? When will I be an old woman?
What of the women who wove the lost thread, worked it into a textile? The women who stitched the world that now sits silent in museum basements, in drawers or under glass — what of them? They, too, are lost like the thread, their handwork cast to the four winds. And so it goes.
🧶 Lisa
A song and a poem:
Tom Waits’ November:
“November has tied me
To an old dead tree
Get word to April
To rescue me”“I Dare You” by Dorianne Laux
It’s autumn, and we’re getting rid of books, getting ready to retire, to move some place smaller, more manageable. We’re living in reverse, age-proofing the new house, nothing on the floors to trip over, no hindrances to the slowed mechanisms of our bodies, a small table for two. Our world is shrinking, our closets mostly empty, gone the tight skirts and dancing shoes, the bells and whistles. Now, when someone comes to visit and admires our complete works of Shakespeare, the hawk feather in the open dictionary, the iron angel on a shelf, we say take them. This is the most important time of all, the age of divestment, knowing what we leave behind is like the fragrance of blossoming trees that grows stronger after you’ve passed them, breathing them in for a moment before breathing them out. An ordinary Tuesday when one of you says I dare you, and the other one just laughs. —Dorianne Laux, "I Dare You"
Beautiful story that touched a chord with me in the art and practice of letting go. I once scraped a palm-full size of frozen sand from the beach on a full-moon lit New Year's night, bloodying my fingernails in the orocess. I brought it home in a plastic bag convinced it was imbued with some magic (aka my imagination). I placed it in a clay pot and kept it safe for at least three years; it was a talisman of sorts that accompanied me through a difficult time. One day it got knocked over and spilled to the ground. I was immediately upset but then something within me settled and something clicked. I gathered myself together, felt a bit of release, cleaned it up and threw it away. The spell was broken but the act of losing it also worked it's magic; it was time to release it and the time it represented.
This is beautiful, Lisa. I reread the final paragraph three times and I will be thinking about this red thread and all it represents for s long time.